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Sometime someone’s personality leaves an impact on us, but have you ever noticed how that man/woman had left that impact on you ? what was the reason or what extra he/she had done ? Well, there could be many aspects to it, however I would like to touch one of the aspect to make you understand the concept that How you can make people interested in you.
Well, I have heard that Everyone who ever had met with ‘Mahatma Gandhi‘ was astonished with his personality because of his knowledge and the range of diversities. The most important part was whether his visitor was a poor farmer or a rich businessman, Gandhi ji knew what to say and when. Do you want to know how it may have happened ? Well, the answer is very simple, he was a good listener and a great admirer. Mahatma Gandhi used to meet thousands of people everyday and while meeting with them he used to admire people, listened to them patiently and that’s how he gathered information. It can be debatable as if Every Leader may had People’s skills or the knew the way of a people’s heart. They knew what things to talk about and what their visitors would like the most. They all learned how to use ‘The Power of Listening’ very early in their life, however today most of the people have lost an idea of listening or to listen someone’s point of view.
Well, as I said listening is immensely important, but I would like to discuss another aspect to make other people interested. Let say, If you can notice anything beautiful in someone, then also you can make anyone interested in you. Just notice what is the best that they have and talk about it with them. This is also a way of making people interested in you and let me tell you how.
Here, I’m going to tell you about a true story from my life that happened about 15 years ago. I unintentionally accomplished something and chose to continue doing it in order to improve my social interactions and make friends. We didn’t have an online bill payment option or UPI options for electricity bills when I was twenty years old. Everyone had to queue at the power station’s counter to pay their bills. One day My father asked me to go out one day to pay our house’s electricity bill, and when I arrived, there was a line of around 10 to 12 people waiting.
I was standing in line, waiting for my turn at the counter, when I saw that the man behind the counter seemed bored with his job of making changes and issuing receipts. He was really slow, and he spoke viciously to everyone in the line. It could be because you’ve been doing the same boring job for years. So I crossed the line and approached the counter, intending to fill out the blank payment receipt and submit it. Suddenly, I observed that the man behind the counter had a nice hairstyle, with fabulous looking shiny hair.
So I though, why don’t I just tell him how much I appreciate his hair and strike up a little conversation. I just wanted to have a pleasant conversation with him because he was unpleasant to everyone else in line, so I decided to speak with him when it was my turn. I commented, “I certainly wish If I had your head of hair.” He lifted his head, with a smile on his face, and responded, ‘They aren’t as good as they used to be.’ With his response, I reasoned that if we compliment someone on their best quality, they might appreciate you back.
Now it was my turn, so I smiled back at him and kept chatting about his hair, and he joined in and was having a great conversation with me. After this incident, I discovered the secret of communicating to anyone is to start a conversation about a person’s treasures, which you see they admire the most in them, and then listen to them without interrupting them. You can trust me when I say that any scenario will turn for the better from then on out. Let me tell you, I’ve become a conversationalist since then, which means I don’t interrupt others while they’re talking about themselves.
Well, as far as I can see, people are deeply interested in becoming a renowned personality but they don’t know the secrets behind it. According to a book written by an American author named ‘Dale Carnegie‘, He cited an example to illustrate that mostly animals have to work for their living except dogs, as dogs make their living by giving you nothing but love, whereas other animals and birds work for their living. For ex – Hen has to lay eggs, a cow has to give milk and so on. You should understand that being humble and gentle is important if you are unproductive. If you can use this technique consciously then you can easily make other people interested in you. Well, the moral of the story is that ‘You show immense interest in people if you want other people to be interested in you.’ Some unconditional ecstasy has to come up from within and it ought to be visible on your face.
The same kind of things were written by ‘James E. Amos’ in his book about 26th president of America ‘Theodore Roosevelt’. Amos was a bodyguard of Roosevelt and later became the longest serving African American Federal Bureau of Investigation agent in the pre-modern FBI. He wrote in his book that everyone loved Roosevelt’s astonishing personality. He was so popular and people had shown their honest liking for him. Do you know what was the secret of his popularity. well, he was humble and showed ecstasy and greeted everyone by their names. He used to address his servants and even the scullery maids by their names. He always showed immense interest in people and they all loved him back.
Well, Listening to someone’s issue is not just prerogative of few famous personalities in the past. It works for all us and all of us can use it. You don’t have to study for four years in Harvard to discover that. Right ? Had it been a situation where you were an owner of a department store, where you spend thousands of rupee on advertisement and rent an expensive space for goods. Now would you hire such an employee I am asking, who irritates the customers, interrupts them and contradict them ? Or would you hire an employee who would be a Good listener, Humble and behave patiently ? Well, You should answer this question to yourself.
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